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How to have an Awesome Wedding Part 4

**Welcome to our ‘How to have an Awesome Wedding’ series. This series is about what we wish someone would have told us when we were planning our wedding. Its also because we like to photograph awesome weddings. Feel free to accept or disregard anything we say. Maybe we’ll give you some great ideas, maybe you’ll want to drop-kick our face. Either way, thank you for being here, for reading our thoughts and seeing our images, for caring enough to come back to this blog regularly. We’re thankful.

TIME. On a wedding day especially, time seems scarce. There’s always hours of hair and makeup and breakfast and golf and waiting. Always WAITING. But once the day “starts”, meaning once the bride has seen her groom, its a non-stop frenzy of pictures, family, details, and friends who keep trying to hug you even though the ceremony is ABOUT to start. “Go sit down,” you say. But they don’t. They ramble on for 5 minutes while you’re trying to line up and have some sort of emotional connection with your Father who has recently showed up at your side. Anyway, I digress. I spent from 7am-5pm without seeing Ben on our wedding day, and it was agony! Our photographer Janine still shot some amazing images, but then our guests had to wait an hour and a half to eat.

The point is, brides, would you rather spend 5 hours at a salon with your bridesmaids and 10 minutes alone with your soon-to be-husband or the other way around? And grooms, would you rather golf for 3 hours at 6am so by the time you do see your soon-to-be wife at 4pm you’re a cranky mess? I vote for the not cranky mess, personally.

And I’m telling you all of this for one very important reason, and its a secret that other photographers probably won’t tell you. Here is it…… ready…… the secret is it takes TIME to create fantastic, interesting, memorable, transcendent images of you on your wedding day! It takes TIME for you to connect. It takes TIME for you to take deep breathes and be present on the most important day of your life. It takes TIME away from your family and wedding party so you can focus on each other and let all that anxiety die down. It also takes TIME for us to compose images that aren’t a cheap copy of another photographer’s work. If your wedding photography is important to you, you must set aside time to let us create images you’ll cherish forever. These images will be used to remember you long after you’re gone, thats how important they are! I’ll be honest, we can make great images in a time span of 10min. But our best work from weddings has been when we’ve had hours, not minutes to work with.

With a bazillion photographers out there its easy to forget that some of us are artists and photography is a creative process. And our creative process takes TIME.

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How to have an Awesome Wedding Part 3

**Welcome to our ‘How to have an Awesome Wedding’ series. This series is about what we wish someone would have told us when we were planning our wedding. Its also because we like to photograph awesome weddings. Feel free to accept or disregard anything we say. Maybe we’ll give you some great ideas, maybe you’ll want to drop-kick our face. Either way, thank you for being here, for reading our thoughts and seeing our images, for caring enough to come back to this blog regularly. We’re thankful.

The wedding of Luke and Laura on the soap opera General Hospital in the early 1980s incorporated the unity candle and showed the world how beautiful and simple the custom was. This international broadcast marked a huge upswing in the request and use of unity candles in modern North American weddings.

This is the most concrete answer I could find when searching for the history and hugely popular use of the unity candle. A soap opera people!! Apparently there is no definite origin, it just came from a mixture of ceremonies from many different faiths and rituals. Which is cool. And literally thousands of wedding ceremonies in the last 50 years have added meaning to this ritual. But heres the thing: does it mean anything to YOU?

The easiest way to write a form letter is to copy and paste, make a few name changes and you’re good. But weddings aren’t form letters. Just changing the names (and sometimes the pastor can’t get that right) and calling it good is not a wedding ceremony. Which brings me to the Unity Candle. Use it, treasure it as part of your service. But make sure it means something to you. If it doesn’t, if it falls into the ‘form letter’ category, ditch it. Replace it, don’t replace it. If you love music, sing songs. If you love the ocean, mix sand. You could leave it out completely. Ben and I washed each others feet. That came with some funny challenges….like Ben trying to get his socks back on.

Either way, don’t spend 5 minutes of your wedding ceremony staring awkwardly at a burning candle that you don’t give a crap about.

How to have an Awesome Wedding Part 2

*This series is about what we wish someone would have told us when we were planning our wedding. Its also because we like to photograph awesome weddings. Feel free to disregard any of our sarcastic comments. But as you know this is our blog, so we get to be as sarcastic as we want!

#1: Let your groom buy his own suit for his wedding!!!

Tuxes are gross. They look nice, with that vest and tie and all that. But lets think about the last person who wore that tux. Especially if its prom season. It probably ended up on the floor of some cheap hotel room with Zima bottles littering the floor. See? Gross.

As the bride you get to spend all this time and money searching for the perfect dress for your wedding. It devalues the experience if your $2000 dress is standing next to a $75 tux that a pimply high school kid wore last weekend. Buy a suit, or wear your dad’s suit, or your grandad’s suit. It has character and history, two things that help make an awesome wedding. So lets go with that.

How to have an Awesome Wedding Part 1

First off, lots of people can have awesome weddings for lots of different reasons. Since this is our blog, we get to tell you what we think is awesome. When we got married, no one gave us permission to not follow the rules of wedding planning. Don’t get me wrong, we had a killer wedding, outdoors in rural Nebraska. It was amazing. But, we also spent a lot of time and money on things that really didn’t matter. But we thought “this is what you do when you plan a wedding.” So this series is about what we wish someone would have told us when we were planning our wedding. Its also because we like to photograph awesome weddings.

What is an Awesome Wedding?

An awesome wedding is about you, your connection, your commitment, your complete focus on each other and what you’re creating together. An awesome wedding is intentional, it has meaning, and it has a purpose for everything.

What is not an Awesome Wedding?

Well, we can’t say for sure. But this is our snarky view of things.

Feel free to accept or disregard anything we say. Maybe we’ll give you some great ideas, maybe you’ll want to drop-kick our face. Either way, thank you for being here, for reading our thoughts and seeing our images, for caring enough to come back to this blog regularly. We’re thankful.